Nice Story in today’s MetroWest Daily News

By Zachary Comeau
Daily News Staff

March 14. 2014 12:15AM

Hopedale: Authors give talk, write book about 1999 Wellesley murder

HOPEDALE – Marty Foley listened as his friend and co-author Tom Farmer recounted Foley’s early-morning interactions with Dr. Dirk Greineder, a murder suspect, on a fall morning in 1999.
As Foley, a police detective, and his team searched the doctor’s house for clues  – weapons, gloves, receipts or packaging - Foley sat in the living room, eye-to-eye with Greineder as his team rummaged through the doctor’s house.
Griender’s children and neighbors protested, but to no avail – Foley had his suspect, Farmer read.
“Foley could sense he was considering admission,” Farmer read from the duo’s co-authored book “A Murder in Wellesley” on Wednesday night at Bancroft Memorial Library.
“(Greineder) knew what I knew,” Foley said after the reading.
The book recounts the events of the murder of May Greineder on Halloween 1999 at Morse’s Pond in Wellesley. May Greineder’s husband, Dr. Dirk Greineder, was found guilty on June 29, 2001, of first-degree murder in his wife’s death. The couple had been married for more than 30 years.
Foley, a retired state police detective and Farmer, a former reporter for the Boston Herald who covered the trial, collaborated on the book, which reads like a novel, but tells a true story.
According to Foley, the investigation, trial and feedback from the book have taught him more about domestic violence than any other case.
He said after beginning the book tour, a victim of domestic violence emailed him and told him, “It’s all about control.”
According to Foley, the doctor was “losing control” of his family and sheltered wife, who was going back to nursing school. His children, for the most part, supported him throughout the trial and were always seated behind their father in the courtroom.
Donning small white lapel pins promoting domestic violence awareness, the two authors used the platform of literature and the “horrible case of domestic violence” to raise awareness of domestic violence, which Foley said affects one out of every four women in the country.
A portion of the proceeds from book sales during the tour will be donated to Jane Doe, Inc., a statewide advocacy coalition dedicated to preventing and abolishing sexual assault, domestic violence and stalking in Massachusetts.
When an audience member asked Foley what May Greineder’s life was like away from her husband, he responded that it was nonexistent.
She went to church, but “didn’t have a live social network,” he said of May Greineder, a stay-at-home mom who never worked but started attending classes for a nursing degree.
“Her family was her social structure,” he said.
Her attempt at a social life by taking classes and trying to make new friends ”would not sit well with a controlling person,” Foley added.
Another audience member asked Farmer how he stayed objective as details unfolded about the murder and the doctor’s ”secret life,” which consisted of prostitutes and pornography.
According to Farmer, two unsolved killings in the area led to public suspicion of a serial killer, so it wasn’t until Greineder hired a lawyer and began issuing statements that the public began to think the doctor could be a murderer.
But, Greineder maintained his innocence throughout the trial and continues to appeal his conviction in the courts, Farmer said.
“Only he knows,” he said. “I don’t think he’ll tell us anything.”
Zachary Comeau can be reached at 508-634-7556 and zcomeau@wickedlocal.com. Follow him on Twitter @ZComeau_MDN.